The Myth of the One Way
You know that moment when life throws you a dramatic ultimatum?
Pick one.
Go big or go home.
Rest or achieve.
Speak up or stay safe.
Be spiritual or make money.
Love yourself or improve yourself.
Follow your dreams or be responsible.
Ugh. The tyranny of the either/or.
Yeah... that’s a trap.
Here’s the thing. Anytime it seems like there are only two options, you're probably staring at an illusion. Either/or is a shortcut our brains love to engage in. A survival response. A neat little trick to make things feel simple and safe. The mind loves boxes. Right or wrong. Yes or no. This or that.
Whenever it feels like there are only two choices, you’re probably stuck in fear or limitation. Either/or thinking is the hallmark of a mind trying to stay safe, not one trying to stay free.
But you? You're not a box.
You're a whole, complex, multidimensional being. And you deserve more than two stale choices.
Often, either/or thinking hides a deeper belief. So often, those binary choices are secretly soaked in shame or scarcity. Like you have to earn joy, or choose between love and freedom, pleasure and purpose.
I don’t deserve both.
But what if the truth is: you deserve it all?
I can either be loved or be myself.
I can either rest or be valuable.
I can either be free or be in partnership.
I can either feel safe or feel alive.
That’s the poison hidden in the binary. It forces us to slice ourselves in half. To pit one need against another, one dream against another, one truth against another.
But here’s what I’ve learned. There is always a third way.
Sometimes, the third option is beautifully simple. Don’t choose. Pause. Wait. Let the tension sit. Let the answer cook. Let the breath move through. Just because two doors are in front of you doesn’t mean you have to walk through either. You don’t have to pick a lane immediately. There’s magic in the pause. Sometimes the wisest move is to step out of the either/or entirely and just… not choose yet. Let the field expand.
Often, it’s a middle path, not a bland compromise, but an integration. It says: I don’t have to choose between love and freedom, I can love with freedom. I don’t have to pick creativity or consistency, I can create steady rituals that nourish my inspiration.
I don’t have to choose between pleasure and purpose. My joy can be my compass.
The third way is where the magic happens. It’s where our soul gets a say. The third way is an integration. A creative blending. Not a compromise, but a higher perspective.
The third way often hides in plain sight. It’s not always clean or obvious. It doesn’t fit in a tidy headline. But it’s often where the truth lives. It’s the way of the soul. It asks more of us. More trust. More imagination. More willingness to stand in the unknown.
And here’s the bigger picture.
We came here to Earth School to experience duality. That’s part of the game. Light and dark. Inhale and exhale. Chocolate and vanilla. Yin and yang. All of it. But we weren’t meant to be ruled by it. The duality is a teaching tool, not a cage. It’s a lens, not the whole view. Duality is just a playground, not a prison.
The work isn’t to eliminate duality. It’s to see it, experience it, and transcend it. To remember that beyond this or that, there’s always this AND that. And sometimes something else, something completely unexpected.
So the next time you feel the tension of a big choice, the push to pick a side, the narrowing of your vision into either/or… pause. Get curious. Look around.
There’s a wall between those two doors, sure. But you? You’re a creator. A wild being with sacred tools.
Carve a third door. Or climb out the window. Or fly through the roof.
Because the real question isn’t always which one do I choose.
The real question is: What else is possible?
Here are a few journaling questions I channelled for you around this topic to help you rise from Either/Or to Infinite Possibilities.
What if I don’t have to choose — and both are already possible?
What third path is quietly waiting for me to notice it?
If I didn’t make this an either/or… what else could open up?
What would happen if I let go of choosing and let life show me the next step?
What part of me already knows how to hold both, and more?
What would it feel like to be the space that includes everything — even the contradictions?
If I stopped splitting myself in two, what kind of wholeness might emerge?
What if the choice isn’t between A or B… but between limitation and expansion?
What’s the option I haven’t imagined yet, because it’s bigger than both?
How free would I feel if I trusted myself to want it all?
Take a moment. Let these questions swirl in your body, not just your mind. Let them breathe, stretch, and open doors inside you. You don’t have to rush toward an answer. Sometimes, just asking is enough to shift everything. This isn’t about choosing sides, it’s about reclaiming your wholeness.
If you're tired of choosing between one path or another, ready to stop splitting yourself between options and step into the possibility of both/and, ready to explore the and, the more, the unexpected third way… Come say hello. I’d love to walk a little of this path with you. I invite you to book a free 30-minute Dare to Shine Zoom call. We'll see if our colors dance well together, and whether the Goddesses and I can support you in moving beyond limitation into luminous possibility.
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Voilà.
I believe that is all for today.
I would be so happy to hear from you.
If this spoke to your heart, I’d love for you to share it with a sister, a friend, a fellow Goddess on the path.
I send, as always, love, light and gratitude.
Isaya
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